on the screen it is your words and your mind that create the illusion you can pick and choose... > a fantasy on the terminal? Exactly and fantasy that can be practice for reality Dreams are the place where problems are solved...through trial of many solutions..that in reality you only get once chance at. Irc is similar > if you were to engage in net.sex, why would you? hmm net sex... well 1> men like sex... 2> sex can be fun 3> and net sex is physically safe thougth I question emotionally and mentally safe. > re: male aggressiveness.. do you get many propositions when online? at first...yes...a lot then once ppl get to know you...they find out what they can do and what they cant it is like parameters are set... hmmm > and what are the parameters? first when you are messaged.... 1> do you act offended... 2> do you laugh and find it funny...3> do you take things seriously. alot like real life depends on the approach... > Can you describe your sexual use of IRC? basically I get on irc... to see what ppl are like... Some guys that I enjoy typing to.. I ask to call me.. If we get along on the phone... I may get more intimate most of the time the attachment is deeper than irc because of the phone and e-mail you can tell a lot of private things to ppl in irc format this gives you a sometimes false since of intimacy... > do you find that you do things online that you wouldn't do offline? definitely yes...to your questions well, I have even talked sexually with womeon here > in lesbian relationships? that is tough to answer... somewhat... most of my encounters are with guy and gal and then the gal alone later starts messaging but sometimes it isn't really a girl mainly there are times when ppl should be left to be ppl.... instead of gender sometimes the most arousing encounters come when sex isn't even mentioned.. its called the need for intelectual stimulation... I have found only one other source of intelectual stimulation that has compared and that was a girlfriend of mine...Her letters to me where intelectually stimulating...she was well read...and applied her readings to life... The more IRC applies to life, the more it can help me... The more it stimulates me... though in her case...and in the case of other irc encounters the format was also aestheticly pleaseing > what do you think of irc marriages? When Irc marriages are in perspective... I think they are good...a good practice ground I like the idea of net.families it is good especially for ppl who don't have families of their own. > what is a net.family? well it isn't just net marriage on irc there is a whole family tree well, what it started out as was an encounter... I was nicked...*wishone* and gave some guy three wishes... his wish one...was for a relationship... I can't remember exactly... but I made a channel... and invited him... I was laying on a couch...and listening to music when he came to the door...I asked him to take off his shoes... he immediately went into a "honey I am home how's my wife" routine I was in shock... PLEASNtly I mean all the other guys wanted to be on yachts or rolls in the hay... never once was one "husband" until him... this brought me to such an interest.. and you know what was the kicker.. this guy was just a freshman He was so tactful...beyond all the other guys I had talked to at the time. we had a mature conversation... and the kids were at grandmas