POSITIVE MANTRA 

New Book by Dr. Gautam Chatterjee

 

The Art of Thinking and Science of Living

       Redefining Self-Management       
 

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Aims of Positive Mantra
The Concept
About the Author
Prologue

Content (16 Chapters)

Thematic Index

Main Page

Chapter 2 : Being Precious - A Leaf from my Life

Being Precious - A leaf from my life
You are a Precious Person
You have a unique Personality
Steps towards rejuvenation and realization
Encounter Yourself
You have a Caring personality; Nurture it...
Culture Information and Nurture Wisdom
In search of Platform to Perform
Sound and Silence: A perspective
Culturing the perspective of analytical approach
Mind your Deliberations
Surging Ahead with Confidence
Towards Self Assurance
Fighting out Negativism

 

 

BEING PRECIOUS - A Leaf from My Life

Every individual is rare and unique. Your mind and thought process, behaviour, communication skills or response system are unique in their own ways and they don't have parallels. Your unique soul, intellect has precious qualities and your endeavour towards life and people are broadly unmatchable! Just think it over! In our life between two individuals we search deep for similarities but we realize that un-similarities are more. We seldom come across meeting points between two individuals. This shows every individual is a unique being and the endeavour of each being is different, so they are naturally referred as different personality.

The precious qualities of the self are matter of realization. This phenomenon called "precious self" can be gauged by fathoming within. A method of self contemplation would facilitate the process. Mind it your uniqueness is awaiting a re-discovery by you so that you can strive for achieving your rare feat! Towards the concept of self-discovery one should trace back one's journey from childhood! Because in our early life we have succeeded for our "preciousness" and we have been tooling our "rare" self to combat failures as well. Thus at both the ends, be it achieving success or facing failure bravely, one does require one's own uniqueness. Here nostalgia matters to know yourself better from the hind side perspective.

In a family when a child is born, sound of celebration resounds. The atmosphere gets charged with musical pulses and jubilation rent the air, as congratulations, felicitations pours in. This is the time when parental aspiration touches a major fulfillment. The precious soul - the new born child becomes the center of celebrations. So do you understand how precious you were when you appeared on this earth!

But sometime the newly born is physically or mentally challenged. In those houses celebration withers, drummers choose silence. No illuminations are opted for by people around. Parental hope crashes as they shudder while thinking about the child's future. Society offers lip sympathy and move away from the parents who reel under pain, agony and confusion.

Before long, parents get education about these classes of children. They realize that their children are not alone in this world. Parents muster courage to take care of the "precious children" who are often referred as "Special children". Special care, attention and love are showered on them and constant efforts are done to mainstream them with other children. These special children grow and prove their worth to the world. Through their endeavour they tell to the world that they are also unique, gifted and need to be loved as precious beings. In today's world there is no dearth of special children who had outshined even the so called normal child.

I know a lady, who became a lawyer incidentally she is visually handicapped. There is a boy who was by birth hearing impaired and no school initially wanted to admit him. Today he has become a successful computer professional. Thus we must realize that "Special children" are also precious person and preciousness is matter of understanding. Just remember nobody is worth to be neglected including those unfortunate "downtrodden" and orphans. I know, a boy Salim, who became orphan at the age of five as both the parents died in a devastating fire in Jahangirpuri in New Delhi during 1988. He became marginalized and forced to become a rag picker to eke out a living. One NGO picked him up and trained him, even mainstreamed him into regular schooling. Today, he is a teacher-trainer and trains slum children as elevating those "unfortunate" lot has become his passion. If given a chance boy like Salim could have become Doctor and heal the society who suffer from fear, phobias and inhibitions.

We are talking about birth and childhood of fortunate and unfortunate children. Now we take up precious "girl child" who as a class, in India, often termed as not so precious! This is most unfortunate aspect of our society.

I recall one of my friends got fourth "girl child" consecutively. Though my friend was hopeful of one boy child but he took this fourth birth with stride and spirit. When he distributed sweets in his office and amongst his relative people were very conspicuously reluctant and hesitantly accepted sweets!

Some relatives and friends went to his house to console the family and most common utterance was, "It is all God's wish." Now my friend wanted to unnerve the "hateful psyche" against a girl child and decided to host a big celebration and gala party. In the gala evening he declared, "I have named my fourth child as Aashima (one who has no boundary) because we as parent feel Girl is that being who has no stipulated border of tolerance; a girl can care and nurse the world in an unending fashion; a girl can become the Nightangle, Sarojini Naidu, Rani Jhansi, Aruna Asafali, or Indira Gandhi or the space explorer Kalpana Chawla. We cannot draw the limit that is why we have named her Aashima."

It was a party with a difference and shaken the society who sympathized him on the birth of his fourth daughter. My friend could boldly pronounce that a girl child is as precious as the boy child. Girls in ancient vedic society and there after became intellectual and sages; in modern world they became Air force pilots, astronauts, scientists and even they scaled Himalaya. These girl children grow up as daughter, sister, friend, wife, mother and grand mother and through their life traverse they prove their "preciousness" in whatever role they have to play in life. 

Thus for God's sake don't term them as "weaker sex" and impose gender bias. In this era we do not call "mankind" rather we term our civilization as "human kind". The gender bias against female children is narrow contemplations and one should unshackle this redundant belief system. Thus girl child are precious and we have seen how "Aashima" was showered with precious love by my friend though she was his fourth daughter. So we find our birth itself is a matter of celebration as we remained "precious" for our parents. Just sit back and trace other aspects of our "preciousness" and realize our importance and destiny of our life.

After the birth, we are all given a beautiful name. Parents and relative do deep contemplations to search out the name. Some draw inspirations from nature, some like ethnic names traced out from mythology and some like to baptize a child with the names of saints and some opt for character's names from great works of literatures and epics. Even some fall out for names from natural world be it ancient city, forest, flower, tree, river etc. 

Shakespeare wrote "What's in a name?" I respond to this by saying everything of every being and the journey from growing up to the aspects of life endeavour and destiny the name remains. The fact is, we are "Precious person" for those who conceived us! This preciousness we carry through symbolically throughout our life barring few cases whose name appears in the classified ads titled "Name change"! Nevertheless, you carry name of parental imagination or out of self love you rename yourself.

As a child most of the people grow with "precious care" and extreme love is bestowed on us as we grow day by day! Since our childhood we were physically and mentally nurtured! While passing through schooling some children excel in academics, sports, music etc. and others are often termed as "slow learner" and suffer from some neglect or other! However, in most of 

the cases, in childhood days our talents are not recognized because we employ the uniform yardsticks to judge every child! But every child is unique and different. Their talents expressions, nurturing are placed at different level. By utilizing the common barometer to judge our "uniqueness and preciousness" leads to burying of talents in the backyard of school lanes. But, please do not conclude that this is the end of one's preciousness. Stop blaming your parents as there was never any intentional neglect from parental side and it was a problem of perspective to understand the child's quality and ability. It is the destiny when our unique preciousness is discovered by the self or by others. But importance of realizing the self preciousness is must for all and one must strive and strive hard towards this. This journey of self-discovery should start at the right earnest.

For all, schooling times are not excellent. Some undergo traumatized academic performance; some suffer physically and emotionally too! These are common hiccups and must be understood by all be as a student or as parents. Because of "slow performance" one is classed separately and earns the back-bencher status. But just remember that because of all these none has right to reduce your preciousness to "nothing"! As everybody will be allowed to leave his/her own bench mark sometime or other in life, provided one does not accept the 'stigmatization or neglect' as absolute truth of 'social verdict' and sinks into psychological complexities.

We are discussing that we are "precious person", and we need to fall back and travel through nostalgic lanes to conclude this statement. Now, in the following passages I am going to share my childhood exposures to cite how traumatized I was and how care and love had rescued me time and again.

In terms of school academics, I was not so "bright" star! I recall when I was studying in Nursery, my father took me to Rashtrapati Bhawan to show Mughal Garden and while strolling by the flowery garden, he told me that the President of India was Dr. S.Radhkrishnan and he was very highly educated. I wondered and asked "He knows all! Can he count 1 to 100 like me?" My parents laughed! This was my knowledge level when I was 3 plus! Or you can say how confident I was with my shallow understanding about the world. Again, perhaps I had my own innocent belief system which I nurtured within.

I started growing up within the given formal atmosphere, but from my heart I never liked classroom and always felt that in gardens we should be taught. When I was in class IV, I learnt that Kabiguru Rabindranath Tagore also never liked the classroom approach so he created Shantiniketan later and education was classed beneath the tree on the spread of green. I started envying. But I knew I was not Rabindranath Tagore so I was not to have such luxurious imagination. I always wondered why Maths, history, science were taught; I could not think how laterally to solve problem sums or had hardly any patience to mug up the theories of SAS geometrical Theorem. I wondered why Ashok became Great after killing so many in the Kalinga War! I wanted or at least dreamt to be "Pele" in my football career but I knew not haw to become one! Since I was 5 years I used to have a small notebook and two inch pencil to jot down something even registration numbers of vehicles, I knew not why I did so because quill driving was to come some 15 years later.

Schooling was so mundane I always preferred not to answer, as I could not convince myself why I have to answer in the "Oral test". Before long I became a back bencher and my journey of being "introvert" started and 

nobody noticed it. So in short, if I have to go for schooling today then I would invite a modern title "slow learner" and would be attending child psychologists counseling sessions. Nevertheless, I continued to grow and from one class to another class I was 'promoted' and my mundane schooling went on.

It was 14th November, the Nehruvian day of "catch them young" when I was eleven year old I was "caught" with disease called meningitis typhoid. After months of hospitalization, I survived physically but I lost most of my memory, even alphabets to some extent. Doctors advised complete mental rest and my schooling was aborted for a year or so! It was a blank phase for me! Medical advice was not to stress the mind in any way!

However, my mother never liked the situation that I would be reduced to vegetable. She wanted to revive my memory and it was a towering challenge too! Though she was just a matriculate, but she could coin a method to revive my memory which may not be a ball game even for medicos.

One day she got me beautiful shinning drawing sheet and Camlin poster colours. She asked me to draw anything I wished. I replied "What should I draw, I do not recollect anything very clearly". She then asked "You recall, you spent time in Hospital. Do you recall how Dr.Banerjee used to do check-ups, how nurses loved you. Do you recall your hospital bed, hanging glucose bottles?" I immediately replied "Yes". This was the beginning of my drawing and she helped me to recollect everything right from hospital bed to the days of my early childhood. She exhibited all those drawings in house walls and I was appreciated by all the visitors as if they came to 'art gallery' and opined about their responsive feelings to me.

It was my first phase of recollection. I did it successfully. I was rejuvenated and started believing in myself. It was my journey of recalling my memory and I could recollect even what I have not read or experienced in this life. This was also a very mystique phase as far my memory recollection goes. I was presented with complete works of Vivekananda by my parents. After reading few pages I felt that I had read it earlier. This process continued time and again! This remained an unsolved mystery in my life.

My quill driving also started; alongside I drew and continued my memory recollection process. My mother insisted to hear news and write them on my notebook. Later I realized she was reinforcing information about the world and trying to develop my expression power. All these happened when I was confided to the bed under medical advice.

This was the silent beginning of my writing endeavour long before I scribed for national dailies. Today, I recall, how I used to write something and get it corrected by my father who was Editor by profession. The corrected paper looked "red" all around and I used to get agitated and at times tore off those write up. As a human tendency nobody likes corrections so I hated my works to be corrected heavily as I was in mid-teens. Because for me I was the best! It was almost a routine that after the protest against "Editing" I used to retire to bed. At night my mother used to collect my torn papers and pasted them for me.

Next morning I used to find those torn pages re-woven on my study afresh. Slowly, but very soon I realized that those red marks of Editor were necessary and I could distinguish the role of writer and editor before I crossed my teens.

These personal anecdotes I have referred above, as case study of self, to substantiate how precious I remained for my parents. They could salvage me out from a very "special negative condition". This was part of realization of self-preciousness. My mother, when faced with challenge could evolve a methodology to regain my lost memory which could have been possible after years of efforts by clinical psychiatrists. So this is how she discovered her own preciousness from within.

Thus, we all are precious beings and do have extra-ordinary qualities within to navigate life. In your life too there were extra-ordinary situations, so try to recollect how you might have responded to those situations in your own unique ways. Your preciousness is matter of discovery rather than self-rediscovery. So we must not neglect the "self" rather we must love ourselves for inner discovery.

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YOU ARE A PRECIOUS PERSON

Every individual is rare and unique this we have already understood. Being precious and appreciating others' preciousness is matter of re-learning. Your unique soul, intellect has precious qualities and your endeavours towards life and people are broadly unmatchable. If we know how to appreciate 'preciousness' of the self and others then our life can become a fruitful journey with high levels of sensitivities. However, we hardly ponder over it. Let us peel off 'Precious Person" and understand the hidden meanings of this simple pair of words.

Personality of yours is unique as you don’t have parallels.

Rejuvenation is matter of Realization.  Do draw your strength from within.

Encounter yourself to discover your USPs.

Caring personality you have!  Do you culture it and express it?

Information you love and knowledge you enhance and then wisdom dawns.

Offer yourself a platform to perform.

Utterance or Sound can make all the difference.  Realize its power.

Silence is also a communication.  But long silence can decay your personality.

 

Perspective to view a thing matters.  You have that uniqueness!

Ensure demonstrative deliberations of your precious qualities.

Research and self analysis allow growth of self belief.

Surge ahead bravely and face the world with positive attitude.

Offer a graceful acknowledgement to your talents.

Negate the negativism.

In these peeled-off 14 concepts we have seen many hidden elements which will help you to show the world that you are a Precious Person. Again you have also found, what are the measures to be taken that can lead to the enhancement of your abilities, with a touch of focused vision and endeavour. Now we will take up your unique personality. Rest for a while and breathe afresh. Till then think and act with positivism.

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YOU HAVE A UNIQUE PERSONALITY

Have you ever realized that you are a unique being with special qualities? Perhaps yes or perhaps not! If you have realized then you must be delivering your uniqueness by now. But, if you are yet to realize then try to re-look at yourself and analysis again the simple pair of words - "Unique Personality". This can enhance your perspective and empower your understanding.

Uniqueness of self is to be discovered from within and mirrored in society.

Nurture your thinking process to find out your USPs which is uncommon and hardly talked about.

Introspect and find out the latent uniqueness which you have been ignoring for long Quest to do something different matters in the search of uniqueness.

Understand yourself.  Have the confidence to act and show the world.

Eternally you are destined to deliver something uncommon and pave a new path.  Believe in it.

 

 

Pragmatic approach towards life matters most.

Enforcing strict self-discipline ensures smooth endeavour.

Ranges of emotions should be controlled and stop them turning into rages.

Search-within for finding methodology that allows adoption of better life-combat techniques.

Optimism facilitates the success to dawn early.

No” be replaced with “to know”. As knowledge can counter act ignorance perfectly.

Alertness enhances our response system.  Sharp and quick responses do matter.

Latent talents need to be awakened.  This starts with deep introspection.

Intimacy matters in human management.  Find out the closeness.

Treasure your energy and fire at right time.

Yield to your “inner voice” but act judiciously.

After the peeling off we do realize that soul searching has just begun through these 17 statements.  We are in a way actually understanding what are the elements which make our personality unique.  Personality is also not restricted to our look or way of dressing but our mind which takes us to our destiny.  However, the world is a complex phenomenon and we do encounter failures.  But that’s not the end as now we are going to take up how to go about Rejuvenation and inch towards Realization.  So keep thinking and maneuver to find out your uniqueness.  Take care of your unique personality.

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STEPS TOWARDS REJUVENATION AND REALIZATION

Nowadays, our life has become full of uncertainties as complex concepts fleet through our mind constantly.  Life has turned into battlefield and struggle has become a way of life.  This constant and tough endeavour makes our individuality sluggish and mundane.  Here starts the role of self-realization and rejuvenation.  Let us try to decipher some of the hidden messages out of the two words – “Rejuvenation & Realization”, which will facilitate our understanding with a greater insight.

Reach out to the nature to discover your natural affinity.

Entertain your lighter sides to live a lighter life with fun.

Jubilation and celebration enthuses a forward journey.  Celebrate your life.

Use your talents for hobby culturing.

View the sky, inhale fresh air to gather inner strength.

Ensure that you require a break from mundane – take time to relax.

Nature is a powerful stimulant.  Breathe the freshness of natural surroundings.

Affections and love for children be nurtured.  Allow this natural love.

Try to appreciate and recollect your past success for developing self-faith.

Inward journey allows rejuvenation of mind, body and soul.

Offensive behaviour creates “self guilt” and leads to depression.

Natural self has in-built natural harmony.  So don’t be anti-nature.

 

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Retrospection can guide you to the future.  Just be focused.

Energy field of self is the power of mind! Grab it, use it.

Assure yourself repeatedly to awaken self-confidence.

Light up the lamp of knowledge for self-fortification.

Insight is a spiritual phenomenon, culture it.

Zeal ensures a positive action.

Active self and disciplined life pattern help the personality development.

Teachers or Guru can pave the path.  Search your Guru.  If you have one, trust your Guru completely.

Illusive vision invites failures.  Be pragmatic in approach.

Operational hazard in life and profession should be watched closely.

Never say “No” as social response.  It destroys the spirit of action

These 23 statements peeled off from two words have helped us to zero in fundamental concepts which go towards realization and rejuvenation. Think further as you have already started self culturing. In our next phase we will encounter our inner self and understand the self further. Till then try to be a thinking human being and take good care of your life.

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ENCOUNTER YOURSELF

Till now we have been contemplating and searching inside. We have discussed about preciousness, unique personality and talked about rejuvenation and realization. However the process of introspection starts with words like Mind and Memory and Introspection. Let us start peeling off process to imbibe a new insight.

Mission of life should be harmonious to self capabilities and talents.

Imagination and action in life be based on ground reality.

Navigate life with logical thinking.  Reason out whatever you contemplate.

Defeat the defeatist mind meaning combating negations within.

   

Mindfully learn what you listen from your inner self.

Express yourself truthfully out of your memory & mind.

Move ahead and expand your knowledge base.

Optimism will facilitate retention of memory.  Don’t doubt you memory ever!

Refer, revise and repeat what you have been learning.

Yes I can remember, I know, I can do are some of the desired attitudes, which allow perfect    recollection.

 

Inward journey allows one to fathom the innocent, pious innermost self.

Nostalgia is the first step for self-exploration.

Teething problems for inner exploration recedes when we break mental blocks.

Righteous self and pious life-style helps you towards self-empowerment.

Origin of our self should be the quest.  Ask what we are?  And what we are up to!

Sustained contemplation and deep meditation can help self-encountering.

Precise approach and focused vision or contemplation can make all the difference

Endurance is the required quality of being successful.

Cautious words and thoughtful action do matter.

Tryst with destiny must have innermost support system of the self.

Inner callings, intuitions and ideas are up to mapping out your future.

Occult and superstitious believe system keeps you away from inner journey.

Not this!  Not this! Be our approach to break inner mental blocks.

In these 23 peeled off statements we have tried to fathom our mind, memory and start the journey of introspection. Sometime very known facts can be re-understood through a new perspective is the play of these peeling off method! But we should keep the content and context in our mind. Now we will understand how to nurture our caring personality and till then keep on introspecting and remain healthy!

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YOU HAVE A CARING PERSONALITY:  NURTURE IT

When we see a poor scantly dressed child braving the chill of weather, then we feel bad and try to extend a helping hand to salvage the child from this acute situation. Thus we have the caring heart which is always ready to help. But at times due to compulsions we are divided and unable to nurture our inherent caring attitude. Let us try to redefine "caring attitude" through our peeling off method.

Caring others as mine – means everybody is part of almighty.

Attention you pay to others’ need actually goes towards self-contentment.

Reaching out to others is the humane phenomenon.

Inner self means Soul which is part of the Supreme soul.  Caring others means ensuring God’s care.

Never be selfish or live a self-centric life.  Love all in self-less manner.

Generosity   is an inbuilt mechanism.  Keep it awakened and alive.

 

Affluence is God’s grace share it.

Teachers of the world have universal message which mainly talks about ‘serving humanity’.

Traverse of life means you receive, offer, share and care with your fellow brethren.

Instinct which is basic – teaches us to be helpful always.

Turning your face away from pathos and sufferings around is actually switching off the spirit of life.

Ushering dawn be welcomed.  Go for enlightenment and dispel darkness.

Diminish arrogance to culture the humbleness which resides inside you.

Essence of life is praying for others!  In return you will be rescued form miseries of life.

These 14 layers out of the pair of words - "Caring Attitude" means quite a lot of things than that the words express themselves. Caring self and catering to the world with benevolence give the contentment which cannot be gotten with power and money. Inner solace allows any individual to fly high and visit many new areas of the world. Now once we are conscious of our humane nature we should now move to the areas of information which makes the personality more fortified. 

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