all those thing should be included in the checklist? is this really realistic?
It should be in the word checklist at least, but I don't think we have to include a contingency/recovery procedure (which it is, IMHO) in checklist MFD.
I mean does the astronauts this all this in that way?
The CMC runs the original software, so yes, they did. And yes, they sometimes messed up with the CMC, too. Jim Lovell caused an average 'Ooops!' on Apollo 8 (which almost got him an unscheduled EVA -Frank Borman intended to throw him out of the window for that) and had to do the whole P51/P52 smash, just like you.
for me it looks more as a flying controller simulator than a space flight simulator
*shrug* Spaceflight is the culmination of engineering, so don't expect too much action...

Many Apollo astronauts held degrees in mechanical, electrical or aeronautical engineering. Buzz Aldrin held the nickname 'Dr. Rendezvous' because he described the mathwork behind orbital rendezvous in his thesis. Doesn't sound like a steel-eyed, cold-blooded superhero, huh?