someone tried to contact me through the talk daemon. I didn't know what the hell to do so I ignored it. Well wadaya know the exact thing to do was in was my dad's unix for dummies book sitting right on top of the monitor open to that exact page! Days later here the book still is and i found out just how stupid I am just now a moment ago. apparently the very request told me what to do but I'm rather paranoid. so anyway I now know what to do if it was someone on the list and you see this please please try again I'll be ever so chagrined if you don't.