From Out of Africa, by Isak Dinesen. At the end of chapter four, she is describing a letter she received from Kamante, her Somali major-domo, constant confidante and friend of 18 years. He is in Africa still; she is in Europe; it is years after she has left Africa forever. And in a "3rd letter" Kamante gives an example of the way in which the Natives can say a handsome thing to you. He writes: "Write and tell us if you turn. We think you turn. Because why? We think that you shall never forget us. Because why? We think that you remembered still all our face and our mother names." A white man who wanted to say a pretty thing to you would write: "I can never forget you." The African says: "We do not think of you, that you can ever forget us."